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How to say: ‘Sorry, I’m not doing that for free.’
‘Thank you for thinking of me, this sounds like a great fit, can I just check whether this is a paid opportunity?’ [‘paid opportunity’ is bolded].
‘This sounds like such an interesting project! Here’s a link to the current services I offer, I think xxx would be the best fit’ or ’…here’s a copy of my media kit, which includes my rate card’ [‘current services I offer’ is bolded].
‘Thank you so much for considering me for this. Unfortunately I’m unable to take on any unpaid projects at the moment, but if that changes in the future I’d love to get back in touch’ [‘unpaid projects’ is bolded].
‘Thanks so much for your inquiry! Out of respect for my paying clients I am unable to give detailed advice via DMs, but here’s where you can book a consultation, and I have a wealth of free resources at xxx’ [‘respect for my paying clients’ is bolded].
“WRITE IT BADLY. Write it badly, write it badly, write it badly, write it badly. Stop what you’re doing, open a Word document, put a pencil on some paper, just get the idea out of your head. Let it be good later. Write it down now. Otherwise it will die in there.”
— Brandon Sanderson on overcoming writer’s block to create a first draft as a professional author
I’ve been in the mood to draw some FIRL (fiction in real life), maybe because it’s cold and icy and covered in snow here. But anyways I’m having fun, so here’s some pictures I’ve finished but not posted.
the only reason why ten year old girls are destroying stupidly overpriced products at sephora to make “skincare smoothies” is because they aren’t being given access to a yard with a variety of mud, sticks, rocks, puddles, and old ceramic planters to make potions in. the children yearn for the apothecary
THE CASUALNESS OF THAT COLLIE SLIPPING RIGHT OUT OF THEIR COLLAR. That dude is a Willing Participant of this walk and by god everyone else is going to follow the RULES.
I stop and watch this every time it scrolls past. The absolute adoration and conviction that they are a Good Dog shown in the collie’s eyes in the last few seconds just… gets me every time.
LOOK HOW GOOD I AM. I KNOW THE RULES. I MAKE THE WALK HAPPEN. SEE? I’M SO GOOD.
really tired of seeing the idea that women & girls are less likely to be diagnosed with autism because it “presents differently” so widely accepted even in progressive spaces
it is also widely accepted that women get raises less often because they don’t ask as much as men. this is objectively not true.
it is also widely accepted that women are taken less seriously when speaking because their speech patterns are associated with a “lack of confidence”. this is objectively not true. [1][2][3]
every time we talk about gender discrimination, people look for an explanation that starts with women’s behavior.
and every fucking time, actual research shows that across the board, women actually don’t behave that differently from men.
women aren’t diagnosed less often with autism due to “presenting differently”. it’s gendered medical neglect, and weaponized diagnoses disproportionately applied to women (e.g. BPD, HPD, bipolar, etc.)
